Round the Sphere Again: From the Women Again
Wednesday, February 16, 2011 at 7:05PM
Giving Online Grace
Facebook, says Nicole Starling, can draw us “into the audience of a thousand daily boasts that the modesty of face-to-face etiquette may well have prevented.” And in that way it can steal our joy when we compare our imperfect lives with what seem to be the more perfect lives of others.
Nicole suggests—and her advice applies to other sorts of online relationships (and real life ones, too)—making
a genuine effort to avoid preening and posturing and a deliberate attempt to ask whether the pattern of my updates (the trivial and newsy, the political and spiritual, the quirky and observational…) adds up to something that ‘gives grace’ to those who read them.
We should also remind ourselves where true joy comes from.
[T]he real source of my joy in God and what He’s done for me, rather than drifting back into the bad addictive habit of chaining my happiness to comparisons with the (artificially constructed) cyber-lives of others.


